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Yeah mothers have a way of changing very well done :)

This is the time of life I wasn't prepared for, my daughter was a teenager - plenty of hormones going round there, I was going through the menopause - plenty of hormones going round there, plus the everyday pressures of live ( from both points of view ). At the moment my house is in chaos because building works are going on, I have to look past the chaos, knowing that eventually, when all the building work is done, it will look lovely. So to with you and your mothers relationship, at the moment it is in chaos. look past the chaos ( try to except it/ ignore it /make the most of it )and realize that your relationship will get better. This is not easy to do but I wish I had done it, these precious years will soon fly past and you will only be left with memories, make them good one as far as you can. I don't know if any of this makes sense to you - if it doesn't this message will self distruct in 30 seconds. I hope it is of help. Love Mand

I can understand where you're coming from with this one...you need your mum's love now. I hope you both find a way to be close again. I never got that chance as my mum died when I was 15 years old, but she was ill for a good few years before she died. I can't even remember ever going shopping with her or sharing mother daughter things. I was too busy trying to keep the family together and my mum's life a bit easier. I felt more like a mother...not her fault though. So good luck with getting through to your mum. Rosina xena465