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Parental Love

For me a mother's love
was scornful laughter at
how many bruises striking fists
could raise upon my flesh
until I grew large enough to
slide her up the wall
my fist dug in her throat
and swear the next time that I felt
her hands hurt me
I would cut them off
and hang them round her fucking neck

A father's love was just a joke
a sweating booze-stained smear
of rank contempt for anything
approaching love
that brutalized
and terrorized everyone
and anything
that came within its grasping hate
leaving only anguish in its wake

So when folks compliment me
on the demeanor of my children
when they comment on
their good behaviour
their keen intelligence
their gentleness and generosity of spirit
and ask me what my secret is
I tell them this:

when I must teach my children
the lessons all must learn in life
I think back to what my parents did
then do the exact opposite
and never
ever
tell my kids about their love


— Race_9togo, Dec 11, 2009

About This Poem

About the Author

Region, Country: Earth Vicinity (within a five light-year radius), ZZC

Favorite Poets: John Donne, T.S. Eliot, Serendipity, Emily Dickenson, Kailashana, Charles Bukowski, Kabir, Rett, Dalton, W. B. Yeats, William Blake, Rainer Maria Rilke, and many other Neopoet poets; Neopoet has heavily influenced my poetry and my ability to write it well.

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Seren

Seren

16 years 6 months ago

Dear Jim

There are no right words for this write ... brilliantly written .. heartwenching to be honest ... I know about living on the end of someones fist sorry I just dont have the right words tonight .. love and hugz Jayne
Race_9togo

Race_9togo

16 years 5 months ago

Yah, neither did I

Thanks for reading Jayne Respectfully Jim "Laws and rules don't kill freedom: narrow-minded intolerance does" : Race
Kailashana

Kailashana

16 years 6 months ago

We are so easily brutalized.

We are so easily brutalized. Words or hands. To not perpetuate the cycle is a miracle. It took much too long enough for me to break it. All of it, imo, is illness of the mind body and soul. Bless you. ~A Don’t let your victories go to your head, or your failures go to your heart.
Race_9togo

Race_9togo

16 years 5 months ago

We sure are

Thanks Anna Jim "Laws and rules don't kill freedom: narrow-minded intolerance does" : Race
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Ink Dragon

16 years 5 months ago

Jim,

it is a miracle and a great achievement when someone with a horrible childhood can overcome the brutal memories and break the vicious circle. My own father did as you did, and I cannot thank him enough for keeping his oath to never, ever raise a hand against one of his children. I also know what it takes to not only write of the hurt, but to go a step further and show the writing to others. You are a brave man. Yours, ~Nina
jetz

jetz

16 years 5 months ago

I just read a response that

I just read a response that you left on a poem a friend wrote. I went in search of your work. This is the first I have read. I am deeply moved. I shall return when I have more time to respond. Your children are blessed. Sue
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R.M.Shanmugam

16 years 5 months ago

when I must teach my

when I must teach my children the lessons all must learn in life I think back to what my parents did then do the exact opposite and never ever how true this is!
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lyz

16 years 5 months ago

A Masterful stroke of the pen

What can one say to this painful memory, except Bravo and be the best to your children that you can. I applaud you. Love Lyz. XX