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JB

The invisible parent.......

 

The invisible parent…….

 

 

you are father in name only

They and I only share your surname

thats as far as it goes I am afraid

for all things since separation, I have since paid

 

and I am not speaking in monetary terms

for all that was said and done, it is my heart that burns

with their constant questions and ridicule

when times hit rock bottom

 

I am the one that answers for your neglect

I have to provide these answers now

for they are to young, to naive to suspect

that you, as there father, remain invisible in their lives

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your son, the fruit of your loins

you supposed once pride and joy

the one who will carry on your family name

asks after you each passing day

 

to protect him, I lie, I console and I hide

the truth that he will some day brutally discover

your daughter, the meant to be daddy’s girl

never ever gets a mention, not by you anyway

 

she will remain a little girl lost, not truly knowing

that paternal connection each daughter should have

not truly realizing what it means to be daddy’s little princess

thanks to you, she will be left a mess

 

As far a possible, me, their maternal connection to this world

will prevent this from occurring, to the best of my ability

for I remain their guide, their mentor in this mess called life

from them I will attempt to hide the turmoil and strife

 

for you however, father in name only

awaits a head aching, bone chilling stark awakening

when one day both son and daughter will renounce you

in all you say and all you will only then attempt to do

 

so start to appear, do not remain invisible to these two

incredible, stunning little souls, so vibrant and intelligent

these two very special individuals, who each in his and her own way

will always secretly wish for you to see them, again one day

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

— Feebie, Sep 24, 2007

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Region, Country: Gauteng, ZMB

Favorite Poets: Sylvia Plath, Robert Frost

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IKnowNoBox

18 years 8 months ago

'a head aching ,bone chilling stark awaking'

If I could only place this outside a gambling Joint a gentalmens club Iknow it sounds radical ,even a mens room wall The Dead beat dads would come out cring to pay there support. In ink, David
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JulieMcCarty

18 years 8 months ago

This is spectacular!

I know what you are talking about here. But to be honest I think my kids are so much better off not having a dead beat piece of SH@# in there lives. He will need them someday. I do not lie to my boys about nothing but I don't need to bad mouth their father they have made up there own minds. Kids are smarter than we give them credit for. How many chances do we give these pieces of craps to hurt our children? Not once in my opionon. I will not have my kids looking out the window for someone who is not really coming. It will be his loss in the end. :) I feel your pain. Julie
Blue_Halcyon

Blue_Halcyon

17 years 3 months ago

I can identify with this one

I never knew my father because he decided to step out of my life when I was a child. It was better for me that he did. I noticed some spelling errors in the 3rd stanza, 3rd line "for they are too young, too naive to suspect" and 4th line "that you, as their father, remain invisible in their lives" . You did a good job of addressing the father in this one - I really wonder what some men are thinking when they abandon their children and don't bother to look back. Also, one small bit of advice - don't hide the truth too long from your children for the real reasons for his absence. It's easier to deal with the reality of things from the beginning rather than to have it dropped on you later on - it makes you question what else what else might be hidden from you. I have a poem I wrote in a similar sort of vein as this one - the title is Deficient Appearance. The title is in reference to his appearance later in my life & him expecting me to want him back in my life after him abandoning me.
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Jillian Botha

16 years 10 months ago

Thank you Blue!

Firstly thank you for the advice with regards to the hiding, i have made the decision to answer as honesstly as i can when both my kids ask questions now. I am sorry you had to feel that pain of not knowing your father when growing up, i know what you must have felt, for i watch my kids going through it each and every day. Maybe some day, both your father, aand my kids father will relaize all they are missing, as wellas what they have already missed. Thank you once again. Yours in script. Jill Mistakes happen, do not dwell on them, live them, mourn them and move on to better things. (PS: if that does not work eat lots and lots of chocolate)