It requires self-esteem to receive--not self-love but just a pleasant acquaintance and liking for oneself."

"Perhaps the most overrated virtue in our list of shoddy virtues is that of giving. Giving builds up the ego of the giver, makes him superior and higher and larger than the receiver...It is so easy to give, so exquisitely rewarding. Receiving, on the other hand, if it is well-done, requires a fine balance of self-knowledge and kindness. It requires humility and tact and great understanding of relationships. In receiving, you cannot appear, even to yourself, better or stronger or wiser than the giver, although you must be wiser to do it well.

John Steinbeck, The Log from the Sea of Cortez, Appendix Penguin Books, 1951, pp. 272-3