What to do with my protective dad

How do your parents expect you to live your life when they have a 2 inch lesh around your neck. I understand that my Dad can't stand my boyfriend's dad for reasons I completely understand. But, why does he have  to make David and me misreable? Does he really think I'm going to do something foolish? No, I'm a smart kid i know what to do and when to do it. But, my dad doesn't get it.  I love my dad with all  my heart and it literally kills me that he won't talk to me most days now. It scares me completely that I might die and he'll still hate me. It makes me think of my cousin Frankie he just died on Dec 14 a car accident and my friend chris died two months before that(car accident also). Then a year before that on febuary 8th three of my friends died in another car accident. My friend Kyle almost died in that accident to. But, he pulled through. What if I die suddenly like them and i never see my dad again? What if I die with him still looking at me with deep dislike?  I can't do it. I can't hurt David and i can't help my dad. So, I guess I'll be in the middle of a tug of war match for a while. At least until my mom gets my dad to see that everything is all right.

love,
Alice