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If people I don't like are leaving a group I've joined, is it a problem?
Short answer, yes. Now, let's dig into things.
You will not like everyone you meet in life. This is neither good nor bad, it is just a basic fact of life akin to the need for food, water, and breathable air. At times we will all join a group or organization that we believe shows promise and meets perceived needs. We will join with anticipation and excitement and a sense of purpose. Once involved we will meet people in this organization who have different perceptions and want different things from the organization and our viewpoints will clash.
And there is nothing wrong with this.
Let me make this perfectly clear for those who have a congenital need to be offended, People can join an organization for different reasons and should be able to coexist.
So why is there so much conflict and finger pointing when people in a group have different goals and expectations? Insecurity. It nearly always comes down to insecurity. Circumstances become laughable when cliques within the groups disagree on direction and purpose and then set aside everything else in an effort to drive the infidels from the flock all the while preaching tolerance and claiming to be victims.
Remember the poor, poor Puritans who were hounded from country to country until they fled to America and set up a society, where they promptly hounded others.
It is laughable and silly and sad to watch.
People are different. People join groups for different reasons. And if a person does not join a group for the same reason you have, demonizing them and trying to force them away speaks only of your own psychological failings. This is not a matter of "can't we all just get along?' It is a matter of "don't be a bitch." And that is "bitch" in the gender-neutral insulting and derogatory sense, rather than a gender specific sense.
Most groups have enough sandboxes to accommodate different interests. Just because someone hates the sandbox you frequent, it is no reason for you to treat their's like a cat box. So what if people you do not like are enjoying themselves doing something you do not want to do. So what if they think they are better or smarter or prettier or whatever than you are. Unless they are actively disrupting your sandbox, move on.
I choose the phrase "actively disrupting" carefully as merely being offended by people who will not play with you by the rules you demand is not justification enough to rant and rave and make spiteful accusations. It may be understandable if you are a three (3) year old but it is not justified.
Now, let's make this personal. Here at Neopoet there are people, specifically and by interest, with whom I do not care to interact because to participate in Neopoet along their lines of interest would be as enjoyable as driving a spike through my head. Specifically and as a class I might even view these people in a negative manner and cringe any time I am forced into interaction with them.
So what?
Does my interest, point of view, or actions demand the exclusion of those who do not share them from Neopoet?
No.
Since this is the case; since this is the clear and irrefutable fact; since this is the basic and bald truth; any manufactured hurt is just insecurity looking to be comforted and as it is beyond my control it is beyond my concern.
If this makes me a bad person in your eyes, we probably should not interact. If you choose to lecture me on why I am a bad person, I promise only that one of use will not be happy with the ensuing conversation.
You will not like everyone you meet in life. This is neither good nor bad, it is just a basic fact of life akin to the need for food, water, and breathable air. At times we will all join a group or organization that we believe shows promise and meets perceived needs. We will join with anticipation and excitement and a sense of purpose. Once involved we will meet people in this organization who have different perceptions and want different things from the organization and our viewpoints will clash.
And there is nothing wrong with this.
Let me make this perfectly clear for those who have a congenital need to be offended, People can join an organization for different reasons and should be able to coexist.
So why is there so much conflict and finger pointing when people in a group have different goals and expectations? Insecurity. It nearly always comes down to insecurity. Circumstances become laughable when cliques within the groups disagree on direction and purpose and then set aside everything else in an effort to drive the infidels from the flock all the while preaching tolerance and claiming to be victims.
Remember the poor, poor Puritans who were hounded from country to country until they fled to America and set up a society, where they promptly hounded others.
It is laughable and silly and sad to watch.
People are different. People join groups for different reasons. And if a person does not join a group for the same reason you have, demonizing them and trying to force them away speaks only of your own psychological failings. This is not a matter of "can't we all just get along?' It is a matter of "don't be a bitch." And that is "bitch" in the gender-neutral insulting and derogatory sense, rather than a gender specific sense.
Most groups have enough sandboxes to accommodate different interests. Just because someone hates the sandbox you frequent, it is no reason for you to treat their's like a cat box. So what if people you do not like are enjoying themselves doing something you do not want to do. So what if they think they are better or smarter or prettier or whatever than you are. Unless they are actively disrupting your sandbox, move on.
I choose the phrase "actively disrupting" carefully as merely being offended by people who will not play with you by the rules you demand is not justification enough to rant and rave and make spiteful accusations. It may be understandable if you are a three (3) year old but it is not justified.
Now, let's make this personal. Here at Neopoet there are people, specifically and by interest, with whom I do not care to interact because to participate in Neopoet along their lines of interest would be as enjoyable as driving a spike through my head. Specifically and as a class I might even view these people in a negative manner and cringe any time I am forced into interaction with them.
So what?
Does my interest, point of view, or actions demand the exclusion of those who do not share them from Neopoet?
No.
Since this is the case; since this is the clear and irrefutable fact; since this is the basic and bald truth; any manufactured hurt is just insecurity looking to be comforted and as it is beyond my control it is beyond my concern.
If this makes me a bad person in your eyes, we probably should not interact. If you choose to lecture me on why I am a bad person, I promise only that one of use will not be happy with the ensuing conversation.