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When the Incompetent Hate You, Revel in It
One of the biggest compliments an incompetent person can give is to make you the target of their ire. What they are stating is that they are threatened by some aspect of your life or ability or accomplishment or personality or whatever and so must manufacture some hurt or slight or stance and pretend it applies and rant on about it until their frail and fragile ego is assuaged.
This happens to me on occasion and as I recognise the issue clearly, it is always a source of amusement because in their accusation are the seeds of their fear. These people are so concerned that they are not being taken seriously that they are compelled to claim others are flawed. It really is sad and pathetic and were I a nicer person I would try to help them.
But I am not a nicer person, I am a cantankerous old man who has neither the time nor the inclination to try to fix stupid. So my response is always to listen carefully to what they say, dissect it for root cause, and then respond in such a manner that sends them storming into a frenzy.
It is a calculated trigger of comments and attitude geared toward focusing on the weakness they are so desperately trying to hide. Most of the times it is just a rampant insecurity, not too difficult to spot and even easier to provoke and so I provoke until they are done dealing with me.
Because that is always my goal. As my step-mom says, "I have all the friends I want." which is a shortcut for "I am not concerned about the good opinion of worthless people."
Because I am in competition with no person or group on a daily basis I do not need to be reassured or coddled or told how pretty or special I am. I am aware of my insecurities and aware of my personality flaws and things I do not like about myself I change, I don't blame others for them.
It boils down to something my dad taught me long ago. Fight on your own terms. I use that in my career, my teaching, and my life. I never let anyone else define the terms of my battles.
And that too drives the incompetent to distraction. They are shotgunning accusations and you can either be consumed by trying to address every fabrication or errant qualification, or you can respond in a manner you choose. To break it down further, you can either act or react.
I'm more of an act kind of person because I am more of a competent kind of person and so when I am attacked for my competence, well, I revel in it. It is, after all, the highest compliment these idiots can give. And although their disdain and praise are of equal value to me, by embracing their disdain I piss them off more and they are sooner done with me.
And that is my goal at all times, to be shut of the incompetent.
Of course, I do like to lead them along the primrose path for my own amusement and those incompetents reading this have not yet considered that I may just be writing in order to provoke them.
It's like I don't fit their definition of nice.
Who knew?
This happens to me on occasion and as I recognise the issue clearly, it is always a source of amusement because in their accusation are the seeds of their fear. These people are so concerned that they are not being taken seriously that they are compelled to claim others are flawed. It really is sad and pathetic and were I a nicer person I would try to help them.
But I am not a nicer person, I am a cantankerous old man who has neither the time nor the inclination to try to fix stupid. So my response is always to listen carefully to what they say, dissect it for root cause, and then respond in such a manner that sends them storming into a frenzy.
It is a calculated trigger of comments and attitude geared toward focusing on the weakness they are so desperately trying to hide. Most of the times it is just a rampant insecurity, not too difficult to spot and even easier to provoke and so I provoke until they are done dealing with me.
Because that is always my goal. As my step-mom says, "I have all the friends I want." which is a shortcut for "I am not concerned about the good opinion of worthless people."
Because I am in competition with no person or group on a daily basis I do not need to be reassured or coddled or told how pretty or special I am. I am aware of my insecurities and aware of my personality flaws and things I do not like about myself I change, I don't blame others for them.
It boils down to something my dad taught me long ago. Fight on your own terms. I use that in my career, my teaching, and my life. I never let anyone else define the terms of my battles.
And that too drives the incompetent to distraction. They are shotgunning accusations and you can either be consumed by trying to address every fabrication or errant qualification, or you can respond in a manner you choose. To break it down further, you can either act or react.
I'm more of an act kind of person because I am more of a competent kind of person and so when I am attacked for my competence, well, I revel in it. It is, after all, the highest compliment these idiots can give. And although their disdain and praise are of equal value to me, by embracing their disdain I piss them off more and they are sooner done with me.
And that is my goal at all times, to be shut of the incompetent.
Of course, I do like to lead them along the primrose path for my own amusement and those incompetents reading this have not yet considered that I may just be writing in order to provoke them.
It's like I don't fit their definition of nice.
Who knew?