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Extended Goodbyes
Can someone explain to me the purpose of an extended goodbye outside the realm of a clamouring for attention and a desire to portray oneself as a victim?
Intellectually I understand some people need to be a victim, need for others to tell them they are being unjustly treated and some folks need to feel as if they and they alone are acting as the protector of all good things. Intellectually I know this is true, emotionally I view it all as the behavior of children.
Perhaps my life has left me jaded but when I face a situation that annoys me more than it benefits me, I remove myself from it. If I believe it can be fixed, I will try to fix it first. It it cannot be fixed, I am done with it. At no time do I see the value of a long and protracted public display of why I am a victim.
Perhaps that's because I am never a victim. Certainly I am attacked at times but since the people attacking me are not worthy of my time, I give them the consideration they are due and move on. That consideration normally consists of mocking and dismissing their actions in as contemptible manner as possible.
So, can anyone explain this to me in a rational manner? I am not looking for justifications because while I may explain my behaviour, I never justify it. I believe justifications are the same as an admission of wrongdoing with the added weight of pathetic whining.
And what is the difference between an explanation and a justification?
Justification: You made me mad and I have to do this
Explanation: I was angry and decided this was a worthwhile action
A justification assigns blame and shirks responsibility while an explanation claims all responsibility. A justification is the way of a child, an explanation the way of an adult.
People will find this offensive, I doubt that will be of any importance to me, but please, if you need to tell me I am unfeeling and mean, do so until you feel justified.
Intellectually I understand some people need to be a victim, need for others to tell them they are being unjustly treated and some folks need to feel as if they and they alone are acting as the protector of all good things. Intellectually I know this is true, emotionally I view it all as the behavior of children.
Perhaps my life has left me jaded but when I face a situation that annoys me more than it benefits me, I remove myself from it. If I believe it can be fixed, I will try to fix it first. It it cannot be fixed, I am done with it. At no time do I see the value of a long and protracted public display of why I am a victim.
Perhaps that's because I am never a victim. Certainly I am attacked at times but since the people attacking me are not worthy of my time, I give them the consideration they are due and move on. That consideration normally consists of mocking and dismissing their actions in as contemptible manner as possible.
So, can anyone explain this to me in a rational manner? I am not looking for justifications because while I may explain my behaviour, I never justify it. I believe justifications are the same as an admission of wrongdoing with the added weight of pathetic whining.
And what is the difference between an explanation and a justification?
Justification: You made me mad and I have to do this
Explanation: I was angry and decided this was a worthwhile action
A justification assigns blame and shirks responsibility while an explanation claims all responsibility. A justification is the way of a child, an explanation the way of an adult.
People will find this offensive, I doubt that will be of any importance to me, but please, if you need to tell me I am unfeeling and mean, do so until you feel justified.